Even when we make mistakes, and we all have made them, and will likely keep making some mistakes, it's important that we learn and grow from those mistakes. As we get older and wiser, perhaps we'll learn not to make those same mistakes. Instead, we'll make brand-new mistakes. Seriously though, growing older doesn't necessarily mean that we'll make better decisions than someone who's younger, unless we've learned certain things throughout our journey. So despite what age we are, we have the power within ourselves to grow, and learn to think and act out of a place of higher consciousness.
Remember that when the glass is broken, it's broken, and you shouldn't be in situations that are unhealthy, toxic, or that you've already experienced hardship from. Keep looking forward, and recognize each day as a new start, and a new reason to start something new. Instead of going back into old, painful situations that you know previously didn't work. Sometimes things are easier said, than done, and I understand that at times, it can be very difficult to let go of situations, because of all of the good that they might've had, as well as the bad. But, you have to make decisions that will benefit you not only now, but in your future as well.
The same way that I give others advice on things at times, it doesn't mean that I always make the right decisions, nor does it mean that I don't mess up a lot of the time. This is something that I work on as well. Some of us need to make mistakes in order to learn from them. While others learn certain things early on in their lives, and choose a better path from the start, not having to experience the hardship of falling down, before learning what not to do.
So the question remains, How do we control ourselves enough not to think of or contact someone that we know isn't good for us, especially, when the desire is there? Like I said before, many times things are easier said, than done. However, you have to have a certain amount of self-control, and you should be self-aware enough to know that what you're doing is not only going to stunt your growth, stall you on your journey, but it will leave you in a state of misery, and discomfort for some time.
It's important that once you realize that a situation or a person isn't a good match for you, and this even goes for friendships that are toxic, you need to get out of the situation. Many times you even need to end situations like that cold turkey. It's important to take care of yourself, and to love yourself enough to recognize that what you're doing is wrong.
I definitely feel that it's better to be alone, rather than with the wrong person. You should love yourself enough not to let unneeded stresses or toxicity be a part of your life, especially when we already have a certain amount of daily stresses that we all have to live with. Why add more to your plate than you need to. When it comes to contacting someone that you know isn't good for you, someone that you said you wouldn't contact, and whether you told yourself you wouldn't contact the person or if you told the person directly, don't contact them.
Think about it this way, if you know that fire is going to burn you, you don't touch it right? So when you know that a situation isn't good for you, avoid it, stay away from it, and end it. We all know what's right from wrong instinctively, but whether we choose right over wrong is up to us, and depending on the path that we choose to take, we're going to have to live with the consequences of that decision.