Friday, July 28, 2017

The Damage of Being Lied to in Relationships

When it comes to having a happy and healthy relationship, certain fundamentals must be there. These fundamentals are like the pillars of the foundation, and they are what holds everything together. The analogy that I've always used to describe what's important in a relationship is referring to a relationship as the cake. The cake is the foundation. The frosting is great, but without the cake, the frosting is just frosting. There won't be any substance without the cake. In other words, the cake is the foundation and it's essential to have, just like the fundamentals are in relationships. The frosting I compare to things like being wealthy, looking like a GQ or Victoria's Secret model, or even having certain common interests that aren't necessarily required to make the relationship work. 

Some of these basic fundamentals that are essential for all relationships are honesty, trust, chemistry, and great communication. There are a few others as well, but these are a few of the most important ones if you ask me. It's important that none of these fundamentals are missing when dating someone, in a relationship, and especially when you're married. When it comes to trust not being there in a relationship, because you or your partner had taken that trust for granted, the relationship will likely have turbulence. Depending on how severe of the lie or action of dishonesty, the more turbulent the relationship will be, and the more that the trust will be broken. Unfortunately, sometimes you just can't forgive, and when the glass is broken, it's broken

For some people, trust is a hard thing to regain once you've been lied to or hurt by someone that you love. When someone has lied to you in a relationship, if you're willing to work on regaining that trust with the person, they will have to apologize, admit to their wrongdoing, be remorseful, and make you feel at ease that it won't happen again. Regaining someone's trust is imperative if you want to improve your relationship with one another. You should never take someone's trust for granted in the first place. That's an obvious statement, but once it happens, it's happens, and you have two choices. You can either have turbulence in your relationship, be angry and bitter all of the time, and resent them for their dishonesty or you can give them another chance at regaining your trust and starting anew. 

It's important that if you choose to make things work in your relationship, and to give your partner another chance at being an honest person and partner to you, then you must do so fully, and with a clean slate, as if nothing ever happened. This can be truly hard to do, as you've already lost trust with the person. However, you can still have a clean slate and give someone a brand-new beginning if you choose to. Having said that, I'd highly recommend doing so with a certain amount of caution. The fact of the matter is, when someone is capable of lying to any extent to someone that they love so dearly, it's likely that they could do it again. Having a forgiving heart is a very powerful and beautiful quality. Depending on how badly your trust was taken for granted, it's not necessarily a bad thing to give second chances in relationships

If you choose to stay with the person that lied to you, you basically need to do so with an open heart and not badger the person that lied to you, but give them a genuine chance at starting over. It's important to give people the benefit of the doubt when in doubt of their honesty, and especially when it's someone that you love. No one likes to be taken advantage of, and especially not by someone that they love. It's important that if you're willing to give your partner another shot at being honest and truthful to you in your relationship, that you do so with a accepting, trusting, loving, and forgiving heart. It's not an easy thing to do. But, if you want to grow from this hardship in your relationship, you have to be willing to let go, forgive, and make peace.

Friday, July 7, 2017

Bumble BFF Offers a New Way to Seek Friendship

The following is a guest post for BumbleBFF:

Today, American women often move long distances to seek jobs or start new businesses. People also marry later in life than they did in the past. This creates a need to find new friends during adulthood. In some ways, technology has made it harder to socialize. It's not easy to begin a conversation when so many people are fully engrossed in their mobile gadgets. Fortunately, these devices can also provide a solution.

Friend-Finding App

Entrepreneur Whitney Wolfe has a tremendously busy life and frequently moves to different cities. She recently realized that business goals had prevented her from establishing any friendships. One of her companies is a popular online dating service known as Bumble. She decided to expand its app so that members could search for new friends as well.

This change didn't only occur as a result of Wolfe's personal observations. Bumble also received many suggestions calling for a feature that would help members locate new friends. Numerous users had searched for people of the same gender or asked for friends on their profiles. Consequently, Bumble BFF was born in 2016.

How it Works

Anyone with a compatible device can join Bumble and use its BFF mode to start a variety of friendships. A member might seek a close friend or just look for someone to bring along when attending parties. Either way, the first step is to obtain Bumble's mobile software from a major app store. It's possible to log in using a Facebook username and password.

To look for friends rather than dates, select "BFF" under "show" in the settings area. This hides a member's personal profile from people who use Bumble for dating purposes. Instead, fellow users who want friends will have the ability to see it. Non-dating conversations appear in green rather than the standard yellow highlighting.

Search Process

Bumble BFF helps people find friends in much the same way as it recommends appropriate dating partners. However, it prioritizes mutual interests and acquaintances when suggesting matches. Users swipe to the left if they're not interested and do the opposite when a person seems appealing. If two members select each other's profiles and swipe to the right, the system prompts them to begin a discussion within one day.

Favorable Results

Does it actually work? Various bloggers and other writers have shared their experiences with this app. The process resembles online dating in some ways. Members must spend some time looking at profiles, and they usually meet a few unsuitable individuals. Nevertheless, people eventually discover one or more desirable long-term friends with similar interests. 

To sum it up, Bumble has successfully adapted an online dating platform to help people develop new friendships. Its BFF feature satisfies the needs of many women who find it difficult to meet people in the workplace or local eateries. An automated matching system and user-specified search criteria combine to expedite the process. This new system was able to quickly attract numerous users because Bumble already had millions of members who joined it for dating purposes.

Tuesday, January 24, 2017

Staying Focused and on Track - Even When People Try to Weigh You Down

In case you haven't heard of inspiration killers, let me explain who they are. They are people who take you out of your work mode, and tend to kill inspiration. They're the selfish types who consume your time, energy, and completely soak up your positive energy and light. The simple solution: Don't let them! Separate yourselves from those who don't understand that you have a life outside of them and their wants and needs. You don't owe anyone your time or energy, and especially when they're being selfish and unsupportive of you striving towards your goals.

There will always be people that will try to weigh you down or take you out of your work mode. This is why it's imperative to stay focused and on track as much as you possibly can. We all have the power to take control of our lives, and to create space from those who try to hold us back in any way. You should only surround yourself with people that will be understanding, loving, and truly want you to succeed in life. Anyone who doesn't understand that you have priorities in life, isn't respecting you the way that they should. Like I said, surround yourself with people who will understand that you have different priorities that at times might come first. 

It's important to have goals in life, and to work hard and be determined towards attaining them. When we make the time for all of our priorities, then nothing gets left behind. But when we don't make things priorities, when we put them aside, or postpone them for later, nothing will ever get done. Everything that's important to you in life should be treated as a priority. This is also relevant when it comes to relationships, because you should put aside designated time for family, friends, and your love life if that's something that you hope to attain. 

You should be dedicated to everything that's important to you, and you should treat all of those things and people as priorities. But when someone isn't understanding of the fact that you are merely one person, and can only focus on one thing at a time, they're taking you down a negative path, but you have the power not to let them. To those types of people that you might have in your life, communicate your feelings to them and let them know how much you care, but also that you need to have certain boundaries, and they should be understanding of them. 

Don't ever let others make you feel bad for having other priorities or being too busy at different times. No one should make you feel bad when you're too busy or don't have the time for them. But if you care about people enough, and you want them in your life, then you should treat them as a priority and make the time for them when you're free. In other words, do what you have to do, and take care of your priorities, but also make the time for your other priorities as well. 

Truly successful people wake up early, are determined, focused, and go after what they want. And they don't let others hold them back in any way. So if you want to be truly successful in your life, remember to stay focused and go after what you want, but also make sure that you're treating everything of value to you as a priority. Having enough balance in your life can be truly helpful as well. You see, part of having a balanced life is making the time for all of your priorities, so that everything gets done. But just remember, one of the best ways of being able to maintain focus towards things that you view as important in your life, is by surrounding yourself with people that will be supportive and understanding of what you're doing and what you're trying to accomplish.

Monday, December 12, 2016

When Couples Forget What Matters the Most

Sometimes they make little things a big deal. We do so, because in particular moments we might feel that some things really are a big deal. But in that very moment, a lot of times we forget what's really important, and we lose focus, forgetting have sacred and beautiful we want our relationship to be. We forget that happiness and feeling in love is the most important thing to us at times, and this is why I wrote this article. 

We should always appreciate the things that we have in life and focus on that much more so, than we think of all of the things that we lack or on those things that we haven't yet attained. When we focus on the positive, and concentrate on all of the beautiful and good things in our lives, and on the things that we have, Will be happier in our current state, and in each moment. If we're busy focusing on the future too much, and to the point where it takes away from the now, and in this very moment that we're living and breathing, we'll never be happy. 

It's always a good idea to nip things in the bud, and to address issues early on, rather than save them and address them all at once, because that will likely end up being like an explosion. Imploding your feelings and concerns is never the way to go. It's always best to address issues one by one and as things happen. That way nothing becomes a bigger deal than it needs to be. As well, it's also important to try not to make big issues out of on important matters. And in order to do that, we have to know and understand what truly matters to us most. It's never a good thing when someone complains all of the time or never seems happy with anything, because that will end up not only taking away your happiness as a couple, but it will likely drain you and your partner's energy. 

It's important to pick and choose your battles. Not everything needs to be a battle, and both people in a relationship need to realize that. It's never about winning or losing, and therefore, it's unimportant who wins an argument or was right at the end of the day. What's important is that you address issues early on, and that not everything becomes an issue because the truth is, nothing is really that big of a deal in the end. 

The most important thing in a relationship is to feel happy, and for your partner to feel happy, and for your relationship to thrive in that state of happiness not just for the moment, but for a lifetime. And the only way to get to that point, is by not making everything a big deal, by being easy-going, and by addressing issues early on instead of sweeping things under the rug. Don't be afraid to hash things out and to work on your issues, because that's how relationships improve. Good things take hard work, and if you want great results and then ultimately successful relationship for the long term, then you have to be willing to put in the hard work, effort, and love that it takes to make it work. 

Sunday, December 4, 2016

When Your Partner Doesn't Feel Your Love

No one should ever be made to feel that they're hard to love. If you're in a relationship where the person tells you that not only are you hard to love, but as if the way that they're loving you never seems to get through to you, or doesn't seem adequate enough, just know that there are other reasons for why that's happening, and it's not necessarily your fault or even true. You're not hard to love. The right person is going to love and adore you just the way that you are, and they'll never, and I mean never view you as difficult to love. 

We all want to feel loved in the way that works for us as individuals, and where we'll feel loved the most. Does that make sense to you? You see, each of us feels and embraces love in a different manner. This is why it's so imperative to be direct, and have great communication with the person that you're with, and to let them know what makes you feel loved the most. 

You can't expect that someone is going to automatically know how you want to be loved, unless you're going to be willing to tell them. Having great communication is everything if you want to have a healthy relationship. And when it comes to loving a person the way that they want to be loved, the only way to know how, is to ask the person directly. Oh, and they should ask you as well. You might feel loved an entirely different way.

Relationships are all about learning what the other person likes, dislikes, and what works for them and makes them feel loved. You have to be willing to treat each and every new relationship as if there were a blank, clean slate, and not bring your own ideas, thoughts, and assumptions are from what you've experienced previously into this new relationship. No one wants to be loved exactly like your ex might have. You can't expect that the person that you're with will want to be treated in the same manner or even loved in the same way that your ex might have. 

We are all unique and beautiful individuals, and should be treated as such. Therefore, if you're in a relationship and the person feels that you're hard to love, then one of two things is likely occurring. Either they're not loving you in a way that works for you and makes you feel loved, or they're not the right match for you. Either way, don't get down or upset about it. Just try to communicate your feelings to your partner and see if you can resolve these issues, and whether or not they're open to loving you in a way in which you'll feel their love more.

Friday, December 2, 2016

Spread Love, Kindness, and Stop the Hate

You give what you get in life. This is something that we all need to realize. If you want love, then you need to give love. If you want to get a certain type of treatment from others, then you need to be able to give that type of treatment back. But if you're going to be a hypocrite, do nothing, be selfish, and only think of your own feelings, then not much good is going to come from it. 

We all have a choice to think before we act, and to be selfless and giving towards others. It's all in our own hands. We all have a choice to make wise decisions, and to choose good over evil. One way love doesn't exist, and it's time that we all start realizing that it takes two to make a difference in this world. 

You can't change other people, so if someone isn't giving you kind or loving treatment when you've been kind to them, then you need to recognize that situation for what it is, and accept that person for how they are, and exclude them from your life. You shouldn't waste your time with hateful, negative, or toxic people. And you should never wait for others to be giving, selfless, or loving to you, before you act kind and loving yourself. 

Concentrate on your own actions, and be first when it comes to displaying your love and kindness. Set an example, and take the lead. Don't wait for others to make the first move, because many times people are afraid and live their life based on the fear of not being accepted or loved. Spread love, kindness, and do things without having an ulterior motive. Do sweet gestures and kind acts just because. Don't do things that are kind, simply because you want kind things done for you in return. Have pure intentions and loving motives when it comes to being selfless and giving. 

Make a stand, and be the best version of yourself that you can be. Each one of us can make a big difference in this world for the better if we all focus more of our attention on how we act and think, rather than waiting for someone else to make a change. If each one of us spreads love and kindness, instead of hate, then this world will become how it should be, a beautiful place to live in and embrace. Let's all do our part.

Thursday, November 24, 2016

The Power of Appreciation on Thanksgiving

One of the best ways of finding happiness in life is to appreciate the things that we have, as opposed to the things that we lack. If we spend our time thinking about all of those little things that we want in life, but either don't have them or perhaps they're certain goals that we haven't yet achieved, we're basically not living in the moment, or enjoying life to the fullest. 

The amount of happiness that we have each and every day is all based on our perception and how we feel about things, and whether or not we appreciate them. If we start focusing on all of the positive things that we have in life, then we'll all be a little bit happier. One of the biggest problems that we all have in which takes away so much of our happiness is that we're always worrying. We have endless concerns about things, which many times, we don't even have control over. 

It's important not to rush things in life or to want things before you're ready to have them. Some of the best things in life take time to develop, patience, and simply having a positive outlook. Try to embrace all of the good things in your life, and enjoy the moment, each day, and all of the little things that go on in your life. The more thankful and appreciative that we are about the little things that we have in life, the more that we'll be whole and a complete person. As well, if we appreciate what we have, we'll be more apt to take on different challenges, and we'll have so so more enthusiasm towards striving towards our goals.

Having a positive outlook is imperative for each and every one of us, and that's why we need to focus on the positives in life, and not avoid the negatives, or ignore them by any means, but more so, we should simply be appreciative of all of the good things in our life and acknowledge them. When we don't appreciate things enough, we tend to lose them or they tend to not be maintained in their best manner. This goes from everything from relationships to your personal belongings, or even in regards to how you look in your appearance. 

If we take care of ourselves and love ourselves enough, it's a way of appreciating how we are, and how we look. You see, when we appreciate how we look, we tend to take better care of ourselves. Be thankful for all of the things that you have in life, and remember on this Thanksgiving Day, as well as any other day of the year, you should be thankful for what you have and concentrate on those things, as opposed to what you lack. Wishing you all a wonderful Thanksgiving. 

Monday, October 24, 2016

Why You Should Be Authentic and Show Your Emotional Side

When it comes to dating or exploring a new relationship, one of the best things that I'd suggest is to be authentic and act like yourself. Many times people put on a front or show some version of themselves that isn't the real them. There should only be one version of yourself. That's the version that you should be and act like on your date. 

Something that I've always said, and I'm sure many of you can relate to, is the fact that I'd rather be alone than with the wrong person. Another thing that I've always said is that, I'm not afraid to lose someone that I don't have. Having said this, I want you all to take a moment to think about the person that you're dating and getting to know, and ask yourself, "Are you acting like you're authentic self and being the real you?" 

If someone doesn't like you for you, then you're wasting your time. You should be with someone that likes who you are without you having to put on an act or try to impress them. Relationships where people don't act like themselves don't have a very good chance at working out. Don't worry about the fact that the other person "might not like you" if you act like yourself, because that just means that they're not right for you, and you should want to be with your best possible match, not just a good match or a great catch. 

If you're afraid to act like yourself because you know how you are, and you think that you're a very emotional personyou need to stop right there. Being your authentic self is everything when it comes to starting something new. You need to like yourself and embrace that you're an emotional person. My personal preference would always rather be with someone that's emotional and passionateas long as they don't have a bad temper. 

When someone isn't afraid to show their emotions and wears their heart on their sleeve, it's one of the most beautiful things. I mean, my goodness, my children look at me and embrace who I am, and how emotional I get even when I'm watching a silly cartoon commercial. Being emotional is a beautiful thing, and you should never be afraid to show that side of you, because the right person will love that part of you, and never want to change it. Remember, it's those little idiosyncrasies and personality traits that are exclusively yours, and that make you who you are. And those are the very same characteristics that the right match for you is going to love, adore, and embrace. 

Monday, October 17, 2016

The Straight Arrow Path to Success

We would all like to get to the top and successful. But it takes hard work, effort, and that "go get it" factor. We need drive to succeed, and that fire to burn our buns, in order to get what we want in life. Sitting back, and waiting for things to happen will get you nowhere. If anyone wants anything bad enough, they need to go after it. I decided to create a list of a few essential factors that will make all of the difference on your path to success. But one thing that's imperative to remember, is that to feel truly proud of our accomplishments in life, we must do things the right way morally, and by being a righteous person.

Don't Take Shortcuts:

Do things the right way and in a righteous manner. Don't search for the easy way to get to where you want to be, just because it looks quicker, less stressful, and easier when you know that the path you're thinking I have isn't righteous or morally a good choice. Remember, short term light, usually leads to long-term darkness, so make your decisions carefully, and stay righteous and decent at the same time. 

Value Your Time:

Our time is precious, and we should make things that are important to us priorities, and treat them as such. Postponing things, putting them off, and leaving them for later is never a wise choice if you want to be successful. Pick and choose your break time wisely and what you do with it, because a break shouldn't last for more than a few moments. A break is something that should be experienced once you've accomplished a certain amount of work towards your end goal. 

Choose Supportive Friends or No Friends:

I just surround yourself with no one, or those that have your best interest at heart. Pick and choose your friends wisely, and only bring in those that love, appreciate, support, and value you as a person. Make sure that you avoid bringing in negativity, and any type of toxic person. Toxic people can become a mental, emotional, and psychological disability if you let them. Besides, they'll drain your positive energy until there's nothing left. 

Don't Be a Perfectionist:

If you strive for perfection, don't see it as the main or ending goal. Instead, strive to make things as perfect as possible, but know in the back of your head that there is no such finish line. Many times perfectionist end up being too hard on themselves, and are even unable to accept compliments and what they're achieving, as they strive towards their goals. It's important to genuinely accept compliments and take them to heart. Be happy, proud, yet remaining humble on your journey toward success. Don't expect perfection, just drive to be the best that you can be, and in all that you do. 

Be Healthy and Stay Active:

Don't say that you don't have time for taking good care of yourself, because you do. Everyone needs to make the time for their priorities, and taking care of themselves. Being healthy, and staying active are definite priorities when it comes to being the best that you can be, and in order to put your best foot forward. In order to work hard and to do your best, you need to be in a healthy state of mind, as well as in an emotionally peaceful place. 

Friday, October 14, 2016

Dating Someone Who Isn't Formally Educated

Most people have different requirements that they hope to find in a partner. For some people a big requirement is having a formal education or even degrees of different sorts. For many, not only having a formal education is a must-have, but also having a steady and stable job is imperative. It's important you know what you want in a partner. Having said that, you can't expect to find perfection in anyone or to find every little thing that you hope for in another person. 

There is no complete package, despite how many people praise their partners in relationships. When a person says that their partner is a complete package or even when any random person seems to be, it's usually because they seem that way, and not that they actually are that way. No one is perfect, and again, there is no complete package of perfection. 

When a person has many of the qualities that you're looking for in a match, you may define that as a complete package for you, but the reality is that nothing is perfect, and neither is anyone. When it comes to wanting to be with someone who's highly educated, then you should go after people that are in fact, highly educated, and not waste your time or other people's time, dating around when that requirement isn't there. Nothing's worse than when someone wastes time with a person who isn't educated, knowing that it's a requirement for them to have in a partner. 

For many people though, it's more important for them to with a person who's highly intelligent, and open to learning new things, as opposed to someone that's school smart, or as one would call "well educated." One might even call an educated person highly educated, formally educated, or even scholarly. For many people it's more than adequate enough when their partner is smart, and even streetsmart for that matter. It's important for many, if not most, to be able to communicate with their partner, and at times discuss more intellectual topics. 

How Important Is It for You to Be with Someone who's Formally Educated?

Having an intellectual connection is definitely important to me, and I assume, for many. It's all about what a person's preferences are as to whether or not they feel it's mandatory to have schooling and higher education be the route of their partner's intelligence, as opposed to someone who's merely street smart, and knows the ropes. In other words, ultimately, it's all about what different individual wants in a mate. You should only date people that are open-minded and really interested in dating someone like you, whether you're street smart, or whether you have an elaborate education. 

Last but not least, it's important to remember that you can't change people, and you shouldn't even try to for that matter. If you love everything about a person, except for the fact that they're not well educated or some type of overachiever as you might like, then you shouldn't be going out with them. But definitely, don't ever try to change them to make them into the person that you'd want them to be. It's not only unfair to the person, but it's wrong on your end for giving a chance to a situation that you shouldn't. You should know from the very get-go what's important for you to have in a partner, and you should only date those that are in the realm of what you're looking for. 

Thursday, September 29, 2016

The Fear of Rejection and Making the First Move

We all have certain things that we're really good at. Some people are better at some things than others. It's a really great quality to be self-aware, and to know who you are as an individual. Being in touch with who you are as a person can play a huge role in knowing what you're really good at or not good at for that matter. As far as being able to approach someone or make the first move when it comes to dating, it takes a lot of courage and confidence. Not to mention, one of the biggest factors always ends up being how badly do you want someone

How much we want something and what it's worth to us can pertain to goals that we have in life and even when it comes to making that first move towards dating someone, or even speaking to them for that matter. You have to have confidence and guts in order to talk someone for the first time. You never really know what someone's response is going to be, and you have to be willing to be strong and resilient enough to accept the possibility of being rejected. Despite how much courage and confidence someone has to talk to someone and to make that first move, you have to be mentally and emotionally in the right mind frame where you can take it with a grain of rice if someone rejects you. 

As far as being turned down by someone, and even in a cold, harsh, or rude way at times, it's important to know that it's better to lose something that you don't actually have yet. As well, you shouldn't want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you. For me personally, if someone isn't interested in me or even attracted to me for that matter, I don't even give it a second thought, and I move on. 

Generally speaking, I like people that like me, and I think that's a healthy mindset to have. You can't expect for every single person in this world to find you appealing, attractive, or desirable. Having said that, the right person will not only find it flattering when you make the first move and approach them, but they'll likely be kind, appreciative, and be more than happy that you had the guts and the confidence to make to come up to them. 

There will always be people that don't value or appreciate what it takes for someone to make the first move, and how much confidence and courage it requires. Don't worry about those people, and just appreciate the ones that do have enough kindness and appreciation for the fact that you even tried. When someone approaches a person to date or even talk to, it's not only courageous on their part, but it shows their interest in you, so you should take it as flattery at the very least. 

When it comes to making the first move and having that courage to approach someone, it's never really about what you say, but more so, how do you say it, how much wit and confidence you display, as well as how open the person is to receiving the communication and attention. Frankly, some people have issues and simply can't accept the fact that they're given any attention to whatsoever, let alone if you're the complimentative type and approach them with kind words. Many people are insecure, and hold little to no self-confidence, and that's why they have a hard time accepting compliments from others. Just remember that that's not on you, and it's on that person for lacking the confidence. 

It's never about what you say in that first moment that you speak to someone, so there's no need to dread your opening statement or spend too much time thinking about it. Despite what many people think, there's little to no importance about that first statement that you say, as long as you actually speak up, say something, and go after what you want. Just remember to be authentic, genuine, and act like the real you, instead of some fake, dolled up version of you. Most people appreciate when people are authentic. 

Whether you're a man or a woman, making that first move and approaching someone for the first time can be challenging, and especially if you're the shy type or have an immense fear of rejection. Anyone that fears rejection too much won't be as successful in life or in love for that matter, as opposed to someone that's courageous, confidence, and goes after what they want. So the next time that you feel scared to speak up and make that first move, ask yourself how badly you want it, because the last thing that anyone should want in life is to miss out on a beautiful, new opportunity to find love and happiness. 

Monday, September 19, 2016

The Empowerment of Wanting Happiness for Your Ex

You should always want others to experience the happiness and joy of life. Even if we're talking about an ex spouse, and ex-girlfriend, or an ex-boyfriend. Although it isn't the easiest of things to do at times, it's something that you can truly benefit from. You should want the happiness of others even when they've hurt you, broken your heart, or found a new love that they're more compatible with.

Just because you and your ex didn't work out doesn't mean that you hold a grudge or wish them any bad will or feelings. To get to this stage of enlightenment is a big deal, because it will bring you more peace and happiness in life. When you're able to accept the fact that you and your ex are not together anymore, you're headed in the right direction. But the next step is to make peace with the fact that you've gone your separate ways, and be willing to give your light and love to them even from afar, knowing that they've moved on.

Wishing someone the best can be done in many ways without even having to say a word. Whether you're in communication with your ex, whether you're cordial or even if you've ended on bad terms, it's important to dive into the spiritual world and find a place deep within you where you can still wish them love, happiness, and an easy path in their life. When you get to this level of enlightenment, your journey in life and towards finding a new love of your own will be much greater. 

Remember, even if your ex doesn't wish you the best, you can still take the highroad and wish them well regardless, because it just shows what kind of person you are. Just make sure that it's genuine. For your own well being and whether you have children with your ex or not, you should strive towards getting to the stage of enlightenment where you can truly wish happiness onto others, despite your past with them, and regardless of the circumstances.

Friday, September 16, 2016

When You're in Competition with Your Partner

When you're in a relationship with someone, you should want each other to succeed in everything. Although it might seem obvious to most that you're on the same team, at times one or both people in a relationship feel competitive with one another. Whether they have a competitive nature and they're doing an activity together or whether their competitive in business or anything else for that matter, it's never good to compete with your partner, because after all, you're on the same side, the same team, and what's a partner if one of you is trying to beat the other. 

Wanting to succeed at things is something that we should all hope to want and feel the drive for. But winning, beating or achieving more than your significant other shouldn't be a conquest. As a Chess player, I find that when I play chess against someone that I'm dating, they can't always handle it, at least not when they're losing. If they can't handle losing to me (not that they always do), they tend to get cold, distant, break up, and it's almost as if I've taken their manhood or something. 

Some couples simply can't play competitive games or sports with one another, because they just can't take the heat or they it affects their ego. It's kind of ridiculous if you'd ask me. After all, it's a game. This isn't always the case by the way, but I've definitely seen the sore loser a few times, and even at a young age. Honestly, I was going to say that there's a time and a place for ego - But really - there isn't, so there's simply no good excuse to being a bad loser in a competitive game of chess or anything else with someone that you're dating (playing Chess is merely one example).

Being better at someone else at something isn't necessarily a bad thing, because we're all better or worse at this or that than others. You can't expect to be identical to someone or to do everything in the very same manner or level that your partner does. You should be happy for your partner if they're better at certain things than you, and they should be happy for you in the same manner. 

Being partners means supporting one another, and wanting each other to succeed at everything in life. Even if they succeed at things or achieve things easier or even better than you do. You should be your partner's biggest fan. Remember to support your loved one, and show them with your words, your actions, and by not being competitive with them. Being supportive of one another when in a relationship is one of the most beautiful ways of showing your partner how much you love and care for them. 

Tuesday, September 6, 2016

Be Selfish Once in a While

It's important to take time for yourself once in awhile and do what makes you happy. Many times people work so hard in their daily lives, are always busy doing favours and things for others, and are always there for people when they need things. But the problem with that is that they always put themselves last. Unfortunately, in the process of being there for others, many times people don't give themselves a break or time to enjoy life and their own personal hobbies and interests, or even pat themselves on the back once in awhile. 

It's important to give yourself a break once in awhile, as well as embrace and enjoy the things that are important to you. You are important too. We should all have certain hobbies or special interests that we find enjoyable, and if we don't know what interests us and we don't have any hobbies that we can think of, then we should try things out, explore something new, and take it from there. 

It's always good to have your own personal interests, because that helps when it comes to having relationships with others whether socially, with family, or on a romantic level. It's important to always have your own life, and to be a whole and complete person before getting into any romantic relationship. This also goes for any type of relationships with your family or socially, because people always have their own things going on. Therefore, if you get a free moment or you have nothing to do one day, it's good to have your own set of hobbies so that you can keep yourself busy and stay active. 

You should never have to be in the presence of someone else in order to have a good time. Some people find this out about themselves early on, and they even enjoy their own time to the point where they would prefer to go to a movie by themselves once in awhile or to do anything else that might appeal to them. It's important to be able to enjoy time by yourself, because you have to like yourself as a person, and feel good from within before you're able to feel good around others whether in a social, family, or romantic setting. 

If you're a parent, then it's important to give yourself a break once in awhile, and definitely pat yourself on the back for all that you do day in and day out. For some people, being a parent is easy, but for others, it can be more stressful. A lot of that stress depends on the child's personality, as well as the parenting style that you're raising your kids in. Either way, it's important to give yourself a break once in awhile whenever possible, or at least when your kids are taking a nap or when they're busy or being watched by someone else. 

Having even a small amount of alone time is imperative in life, and we should all do things that make us happy during those alone moments. Remember, having a predominantly healthy lifestyle involves eating a healthy diet, or at least a diet where you're eating habits let you indulge once in awhile. But also, it's important to get a good amount of REM sleep, because sleep is imperative when it comes to how you feel throughout your day. 

Getting enough sleep and eating a healthy diet can play a big role on how you feel emotionally, and it can also play a big role on how you're able to handle stress. It's much easier to handle stressful situations when you're taking good care of yourself from within. As long as you're taking good care of yourself on the inside, eating right, and getting enough sleep, then it's important to do things for yourself so that you feel good inside and happy. That even includes indulging in things once in awhile. 

Find out what hobbies appeal to you more, and find a way to arrange your schedule so that you can explore those things and embrace life, because everyone deserves to do things in life that make them happy. Even those of us that tend to get extremely busy throughout our week, or even more so for those types. Whether you're married, a parent, a single parent, a bachelor, a teenager, or even a senior, it's important to do things for yourself once in awhile. Give yourself a break and be selfish, because you deserve to enjoy your life.

Sunday, August 28, 2016

Be Willing to Work for What You Want

We all want to have that perfect body. But another thing that we all want is to be healthy, and to feel good inside, and out. Feeling good involves having a good self-esteem, feeling confident, motivated, and not only feeling capable of being an inspiration to others, but to ourselves as well. It's much easier for people to preach and to be inspirational towards others, even when they don't take their own advice. 

Perhaps we might even sound hypocritical at times. However, we're in control of whether we listen to and embrace our own words of wisdom and advice or not. We are in fact inspirations to ourselves more than others. But what's needed is to become truly connected with our words of wisdom and the advice that we give to others, until we feel it in deep within us, knowing that they're not empty inspirational words. The fact of the matter is, sometimes we are hypocrites, because we give advice to others, but our own words and actions don't match up, but that can all change. We need to connect with ourselves from within on such a deep level that we're able to inspire ourselves.

When it comes to health, nutrition, and fitness, it's important never to let our emotions take over, and let our moods run the show so to speak.  Our emotions or mood shouldn't be the factor that directs whether or not we work out or eat a certain way. Being that the goal in life is happiness, we need to maintain a certain level of happiness, and to feel at peace from within. 

Being that our moods change all of the time, from moment to moment throughout our daily lives, taking us from happy to sad to angry to high energy to low energy, and so on, it's important to stay focused on our main goal which is to be healthy, stably content to some extent, and if we're making a conscious decision to eat healthier or to develop a regular workout routine and be stable about it, we shouldn't lose track. But instead, stay focused on the right path towards our goal.

We're going to have good days and bad days, and our moods are definitely going to change from moment to moment, and that includes being affected by things that go on every day. But when we have a goal to improve ourselves in any way, whether it's from within in regards to our emotions or whether it's in regards to our work, business, or health and fitness, we shouldn't let others or even ourselves feel deflated or unmotivated, because of a temporary bad mood or issue we might be having. We should strive towards our goals of improving regardless of our mood or our energy level.

There are always things that we can do to improve our energy levels and our moods, so giving up, or not being driven and motivated towards our goals because of our mood should never be an issue. Successful people never succeed by taking days off, because they're not in a good mood or from the lack of sleep. They simply sleep enough, make sure that they get an adequate amount of REM rest, and they take good care of themselves so that being lazy or taking a day off doesn't come up as an option to them.

Successful people stay motivated and driven towards their goals no matter what. Even if we strive towards being more motivated a little bit, it can only bring more positivity and enlightenment so that we're able to achieve more in life, and have a better chance at improving ourselves, and striving towards our goals. 

If you have certain goals that you're hoping to achieve, don't put things off for later, because later doesn't always come, and sometimes it turns into a pattern of laziness, and perhaps even a bad habit of postponing things. People might even become flaky, canceling plans for lack of motivation or energy. Taking a short break is normal and can even be beneficial, especially for those that tend to be workaholics. But, a short break or even a little vacation isn't the same thing as postponing goals. Remember those famous hashtags of #workhard and #playhard because they need to resonate to someone that wants to be successful. Remember there should be balance in life, but if we want things to be a certain way and we're not willing to settle for less, then we need to work hard for it.

Monday, August 8, 2016

Going After What You Want

In life, we always hope and pray that everything will turn out just perfectly, and as we'd like. Unfortunately, things don't always happen exactly how we'd hoped or expected them to. As we strive towards our goals and go after what we want in life, despite what we do, even if we organize and create a game plan of some sort, sometimes things don't happen exactly the way we want. 

As many of us know in life, opportunities happen for each and every one of us, and all of the time. However, if we don't act on those opportunities quick enough when we're given the chance (click here), sometimes we miss out, and at times, we miss out really big. We can't always get everything that we want in life. Especially, when we're not willing to go after what we want. However, we can definitely try to get what we want, and in doing so, we'll have a greater chance at achieving what we'd like. 

As far as getting exactly what we want, exactly when we want it, and precisely being able to control every minor detail of how we get what we want doesn't always happen the way we might hope or plan. But, when you think about it, that's okay. The reason that it's okay is because things don't happen exactly the way that we want them to happen all of the time. But that doesn't mean that even better things won't happen to us. Sometimes things that are even better happen in our lives when we put so much love, effort, and hard work into going after what we want. 

We get rewarded in life in many different ways. But rewards come to those that go after their goals and work hard towards achieving them, and maintaining them. If you don't go after what you want in life, then you're not striving towards your goals. You're not even striving toward your dreams. Just as I've written before, you need to view your dreams as goals, and work hard towards achieving them. You need to be determined, create a game plan, stay focused, and balanced as you head in the right direction towards achieving your goals. You need to be driven, motivated, and willing to put in the hard work and effort that it takes to get whatever you want in life. 

Just because things don't happen exactly as you might hope, and just because sometimes we need to pay the dues while we built our dreams and create better lives, it doesn't mean that we won't achieve what we want in life, because we will. But it might not be exact to the T. It might not be precisely how we envisioned things to be. It could be pretty close though. If anything, usually when we're willing to put a lot of hard work, love, and effort towards reaching our goals, things might not only happen as we'd hope, but they might even happen even better than we'd hoped. 

It's important to stay focused in life. As we maintain our drive and focus, we need to remember that despite the hardships that may come at times while we're building our dreams and going after what we want in life, sometimes we might feel as a failure or perhaps as if things didn't go as we'd planned or prefered them to. But that doesn't mean that we're a failure by any means. On the contrary, the outcome and the result of all of our hard work in life will eventually pay off and show great rewards all in time. Maybe not in the time that you'd hoped. But, in time, great results for your achievements will be obvious and apparent to you in the future. 

If you want to create a certain type of lifestyle for yourself, don't let small or even large stumbling blocks in the road keep you from achieving what you want. Don't let people around you distract you or take you away from your path to success. But most of all, don't be afraid to fall, mess up, or at worst, fail while striving towards success. We all fail at different times. But it's important to remember that what you might be viewing as failing isn't truly failing. You can't fail at something that you don't give up on. You'll get there, and you'll get what you want in life. Just don't give up, and never stop striving towards your goals, and a better life. 

Monday, July 18, 2016

6 Things to Know About Search Engine Optimization

By Jeffrey Branover 
SEO Services Consultant
Los Angeles, California

Prospective clients often ask an SEO expert about tools and strategies to drive in more traffic to their website. They’re curious to know how SEO Services works and ‘what are the different strategies one can incorporate for effective results?’, and ‘how long will 1st page rankings last?’ I’ve compiled 6 things about SEO Services that can benefit readers in learning more about online marketing so prospective clients can learn more about search engine marketing. SEO is an online marketing strategy/plan to help local businesses maximize their exposure and visibility on search engines (such as Google, Youtube, Bing, and Yahoo). SEO is currently used as part of a digital marketing campaign for visibility for important keywords/phrases that are relevant to one’s business. 

1. Search Engine Optimization is commonly referred to as SEO Services. While it’s true that a beautiful and well designed website will get quality recognition and a positive response from people, SEO Services increases online visibility to your target audience on an exponential level. Quality Search Engine Optimization ranks your website for relevant and competitive keywords that's appropriate and important for your business. An SEO strategy may be designed for particular web pages, and/or for the totality of the website. It’s assumed that about 50 percent of websites that have a physical storefront will need SEO to increase their visibility, traffic, sales, and recognition. Of the local businesses, most will try to do SEO themselves or hire a consultant to rank their site for keywords/phrases their consumers are searching for.

2. SEO is also commonly referred to as online website marketing and digital marketing. That is, if one seeks a talented digital marketing expert to drive in relevant traffic to their site, they’re most likely going to consult with an SEO company. However, just because SEO is short for search engine optimization doesn’t mean that an SEO company will not have social media marketing talent to maximize exposure and customer conversion. The impact of various digital channels is profound. These various platforms (if used correctly) can be used to capitalize on an audience that have expressed a lot of interest from users that are consistent on their social media accounts. Of the social media platforms, Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, Twitter, and Snapchat are powerful drivers to attract and convert users to customers (from a business perspective). In more advanced cases, utilizing an AD campaign for Social Media and Search Engine Marketing may (will usually) increase your exposure a lot quicker and with better results than conventional organic SEO. Organic marketing can take about 3-6 months to kick in for rankings (sometimes even longer depending on the competition). Make no mistake, SEO is an effective online strategy and can drive enormous traffic, sales, and consults.

3. While there is no doubt that SEO Services is a great online traffic booster because it gets your website/webpage to the top in Search Engines, the time it takes to rank a website compared to running a sound AdWords campaign may prove to be less effective. Almost always, a business owner wants to see results immediately. Otherwise, he/she may feel that he is wasting his/her money. There are some exclusions to slow rankings such as the website’s age, domain authority, and on-page factors. In some cases, a website may have immediate rankings because of a number of quality factors and just needs excellent backlinks for that extra boost.

4. There are no shortcuts to rank websites. There are a lot of gimmicks and sophisticated automated machines that promise rankings. Prior to buying into such strategies, it’s wise to do your homework and ask a local SEO consultant if it’s a good idea. Many SEO consultants offer free complimentary consultations to earn your trust and business. Quality Search Engine Optimization is a diversified strategy of incorporating white-hat strategies. It’s wise to stay true to the fundamentals of on-page and off-page SEO marketing. Integrating a strategy of fundamentals will most likely ensure your rankings, even after dramatic algorithm updates for long lasting results.

5. The effect of bad rankings is often caused by not following the SEO guidelines. In such cases, poor rankings may be a result of over optimization, no optimization, too many links, or not enough links. SEO is complicated to the newbie, yet simple to the pro. A site’s ranking is determined by how relevant its content is to the person searching on the web. The more quality your content is, the more visibility it will get among searchers. It’s wise to incorporate “HOT” PHRASES (keywords) in the content of your article or webpage to ensure that you’re covering all your corners for exposure. A list of bad strategies includes: duplicate content, too many “of the same” anchor texts, and backlinks from irrelevant sources. 

6. SEO Services can include article submissions, on-page optimization, backlink cleanup (disavow links), and citations. Particularly in new websites, a strategy should include on-page, citations, press releases (which includes article submissions), and blogging. It’s wise for the website to continue to grow and expand by writing new (and compelling) blog articles, and engage on social media channels.

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Consultations can be booked by calling SEO Services Los Angeles Jeffrey Branover at 323-449-6623, or by completing a contacts form online on his website. Jeffrey’s Los Angeles SEO Company is focused on providing his clients with the highest quality SEO Services that are up to date. For more info on his services and SEO packages, visit Stay up to date on his latest posts and SPECIAL DEALS on Facebook, Google Plus, and Twitter

Thursday, July 7, 2016

Quote of the Day by Elie Wiesel

"The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference."

- Elie Wiesel

Saturday, July 2, 2016

This Should Be on All of Our Must-Have Lists

When it comes to finding someone that will be a partner, and one that you can build a life with, most of us are looking for that perfect match. Within that perfect match, we usually tend to look for someone that has many qualities that we'll find appealing. One of those qualities that many times gets overlooked by a person's exterior beauty is one of the most important qualities. The quality of being a good person.

Being a good person is not only something to look for when looking for your best possible match, but it's something that should be on everyone's must-have list. You should want someone that's going to be kind. Someone that will be kind, not only to you, but to themselves, to strangers, to neighbours, and to people in need and less fortunate. When it gets to a certain point, and you meet each other's families, you want to be with someone that will be kind to your family, and to your children if you have any. For many of us, we'd like to know that a person is good to their own family, as well as our own.

Kindness is an essential quality when it comes to how we act, and when it comes to something we look for in a partner in life. Kindness and being a good person go hand-in-hand. I personally find it to be either a red flag or just a seriously big turn off when I see that someone I start dating isn't kind to other people like waiters, workers, and people that are in need and less fortunate. In retrospect, when someone does the opposite and shows kindness and love towards total strangers, people that serve them, waitresses, waiters, workers, and that are giving to people in need, they get golden stars that go straight to my heart. 

When someone is truly kind, and displays kindness to others without hoping to gain from it in any way, it can be a truly beautiful thing. We should all strive to find a partner in life that displays a healthy balance between being beautiful on the inside and on the outside. For me personally, and I know that many would agree, people can seem very beautiful and incredibly gorgeous on the outside, and in their appearance. Meanwhile, as soon as they open their mouth to speak or display acts of negativity or anything of the sort, I start to perceive them as an ugly person on the inside, and for some reason it affects their beauty on the outside as well. 

I've even seen people that over time, and over many years have grown to be more beautiful with age, because they're beautiful on the inside. I'm sure that they probably take good care of themselves as well, and live a predominantly healthy lifestyle to some extent. But either way, my point is that many times people that do bad things, are cruel to others, and lead their lives in a negative manner in different ways tend to become ugly on the outside, and in their appearance. 

I've seen people that do bad things to others, hurt people, abuse others, and take advantage of them to the point where they'll literally deteriorate at a younger age. Having said that, although they might've been beautiful or handsome upon the moment we met, they became so severely ugly on the inside, that I can honestly say that their ugliness from their souls exuded to their exterior. We should all strive to be better people. When it comes to finding the love of your life, and the person that you'll be able to share your life and dreams with, make sure that kindness is one of the factors, and that being a good person is something that you look for and embrace when in your search for true love.