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Saturday, January 9, 2016

The Effortless Valentine's Day

Valentine's Day is a day set out to remind our loved ones that we care about them. It's a time where we put a little bit of extra effort and love towards showing people that we indeed not only care, but that we understand the importance of reminding our loved ones how much they mean to us. Valentine's Day is a holiday where we can express our feelings, give thanks, and appreciate all of the people that we care about. Whether we ourselves love this holiday or not, and whether or not we have a partner that tries to convince us that it's not that big of a deal, it is. The reason that Valentine's Day is such a big deal to some people is for a good, darn reason. There should always be reasons to celebrate and remind our loved ones and people that we care about how much they mean to us.

Whether or not this is one of your favourite holidays, it's important that we don't come across as a ba-humbug type, and ruin it for the rest of the people that actually enjoy it. Valentine's Day is a romance filled holiday, where many people feel nearly obligated to show and express their love in the mushiest ways possible. Then again, many people don't do it because of an obligating sort of feeling, but more so because they want to. People usually express their love on Valentine's Day through giving gifts, notes, and bringing about their romantic and passionate sides more than they would on an everyday basis.

When it comes to putting effort into things, not just romantic gestures, but anything in life, it's important that we do so from the bottom of our hearts, and not because we have to. No one enjoys getting a gift that they feel they pressured someone into giving them. People appreciate gifts more so when they're given out of sentiment, out of effort, and out of a place of genuine love and thought. That's how people should give and that's how people should receive. It's never mandatory that people shower each other with gifts, and whether or not they're expensive, inexpensive, or anything of the sort, it should never be anyone's main focus. Usually, it's not about the price of the gift that you give to someone, it's about the thought that goes behind it, and many times it's the effort that went into buying or making the gift. 

Valentine's Day isn't all about buying and receiving gifts. It's a day to remind our loved ones how much we care about them, and how much they mean to us. As well, it's a day to remind people how much we appreciate them for all that they do, all that they are, how grateful we are for that, and for having them in our lives. Despite the gift buying, splurging at restaurants, flowers, balloons, chocolates, and sexy lingerie, etc., it's important to remember that Valentine's Day is a day for closeness, warmth, and reminding and expressing our love to others through our words and actions. Just think, if we acted out of love and expressed our feelings and care for other people throughout our lives, and not just on Valentine's Day, what a beautiful world this would be. 

Many people get used to the situations that they're in, get too busy in their daily lives, and forget the importance of showing our affections in many different ways, and Valentine's Day is like a little reminder. There's nothing wrong with having a day set out to celebrate, and remind the people that we love how much we care about them. I'm all for celebrating this special day, and when you have someone wonderful to share it with, it makes it even better. Remember, Valentine's Day is a time to express your feelings even more than you would normally. You should go out of your way for your partner, and make them feel special. You should do this all of the time, but for those that don't make the time, or are slacking in the romance department, it's time to step up your game, and embrace your loved one, and express your affection. 

When it comes to people that aren't the biggest fan of celebrating Valentine's Day, they end up ruining it for the people around them that do care. Perhaps you have a partner that cares, and truly wants to celebrate this special day, but you're more of the "it's a Hallmark holiday that tries to soak up people's money" type of person, and that kind of mentality can totally kill it for your partner. Wake up and feel the romance, and if not for yourself, then do so for your partner. Having said that, it's important to recognize that effort is something that will be everything when it comes to showing someone that you care. I'm definitely not a big fan of those outdoor flower stands on every corner, or the people that have bunches of flowers just waiting for you to drive by, roll down your window, and hand them some quick cash. That's one of the most ridiculous things I've ever heard of, but if it wasn't making sales, it would've ended long ago. Having said that, it seems to be a pretty thriving business during holidays like Valentine's Day. You pull up to a stoplight, and someone rushes to your car window trying to sell you flowers to give to your loved one. 

Whether you're a man or woman, and depending upon how much detail you notice in things, you'll notice whether a person put effort into doing something nice for you or not. Showing your partner or loved ones that you put effort into doing something nice for them can be one of the most beautiful things. I'm going to be writing a few articles for Valentine's Day, so all of those ba-humbug types need to open up their hearts and read up! I'm a relationship blogger, so this is my thing, and I want to wish everyone a lot of love this coming Valentine's Day. I hope that everyone has a great weekend, and despite what day of the year it is, I hope that everyone always finds reasons to celebrate their love for their partner and loved ones.