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Sunday, December 20, 2015

Optimistic in Finding Love

It's important that people keep their chin up so to speak and stay optimistic during their search at finding true love. It's also important that we don't lose hope, give up, and never stop trying to find our best possible match. Sometimes people act to the outside world as if they're optimistic in finding love, but they've actually become quite pessimistic, and fear that it may never happen for them. Many times singles can get extremely deflated after going out on a lot of bad dates, or dates with people that seem to be entirely wrong for them. Hey, going out on a lot of empty dates can deflate anyone, when you're hoping to be with the person that you've been dreaming of. 

You likely have that special someone in mind, know what you want in a partner, and won't accept less than what you've got your heart set on. Perhaps there's this image of what you want your partner to be like. Not just a physical image, maybe not physical at all, but emotionally, intellectually, and personality-wise. As long as you're not going overboard and being too picky, you're entitled to want what you want. You should definitely have some sort of idea as to what will work for you and what won't as far as being with someone.

Dating in Los Angeles can be difficult. Hey, dating anywhere can be difficult, but it's important not to lose hope and faith that you'll find your match. It's imperative that singles stay positive when in their search, and maintain a sincere smile and love for life, and all that they do have, despite not having found their partner yet. The reasons, other than being able to function better in your day to day life, would be so that you'll come across as a positive person to the person that you're dating, not seem so negative and pessimistic, and simply put, so that you won't be a drag to be around. Think about it... Who wants to be around someone that's miserable and doesn't believe in love anymore. Can anyone really imagine falling in love with a person that potentially has lost hope for love itself or the belief that life is good, despite not having found their partner yet. That's obviously a rhetorical question. 

Whether we fake it until we believe it or whether we truly believe it, we have to stay on the top of our game, be determined, and stay focused enough to find our true love by staying positive, happy, enlightened, and in good spirits. It's important not to become sarcastic to the point where another person will view you as a negative or sarcastic person that seems very pessimistic or arrogant towards dating, finding a partner, and true love. If you think that it's considered lying to others as well as yourself, this may be one case where it's ok and healthy to do so. It's important that throughout possible heartache, wounds from past relationships, and bad date after bad date, that at some point, we put ourselves out there, despite having been let down, and get back on the saddle, and remain in good, healthy, and positive spirits, just enough to do it all again. 

Is it worth it? Yes. Going through all of this dating crap (yes, I said crap) is worth it and much more, if it means getting to eventually find the one person that you're supposed to be with. It takes falling down at times, before falling in love. Good things are usually not handed out for free, or on a platter to indulge without any calories. It's that hard work and mileage from experience that makes us a stronger and better partner for our love to be. It's those bad experiences from heartache and bad dates that show us what we need and don't need, as well as what will work or won't work for us in a relationship. 

It's important to be whole and happy within ourselves, and to the fullest, in order to find someone that will also be whole and happy within themselves, so that both people can make a life together that will be happy from both sides. There are many things that one can do to remain positive while dating in the LA Scene or any scene for that matter, and it's important to stay focused on your goal, and that means keeping your chin up, being hopeful, and to feel good inside, because it will show on the outside.