The older we get, the more time we have to figure out what we really want in life. As we grow, we learn and discover new things about ourselves that we usually only discover with age. You learn what works for you and what doesn't. You learn what triggers you into a bad mood or a good mood. You either learn not to make the same mistakes again and again, or you keep repeating them, as if you hadn't learned from them.
Some people grow and learn how to be a kind person to others and to be compassionate and loving, and some don't. Some people cheat and steal and as they grow, they learn not to. It's true, some people have never done anything remotely wrong or sinful in their lives. I, of course, haven't been fortunate enough to meet any of those saints, but I'm sure some people don't make such crucially, bad decisions that they need to repent from.
Surprisingly enough, it's quite common these days that people break up via text message. That's pretty cold too. Of course, it probably should depend upon how close the two people have gotten and how much time they spent together, as to how they should break up and what's appropriate or not. Breakups are never fun or easy. In my opinion, it's better to know someone's not interested early on, rather than be strung along for a long time and then break up. That way, there's less attachment or heartache involved.
I've always said, I can't lose what isn't mine and I'd rather lose a guy early than later. No one wants to be the one with intense feelings for someone that they've developed over such a long period, just to be left in the end, because the feelings weren't mutual. Find out early on. Look for the signs if he/she is interested as well. People that are into each other should have healthy, good communication. It shouldn't have to be a guessing game. I always say, it's best to be on the same page. Say this, "I want us to be on the same page."
However, when someone is acting like themselves, being open book, honest, and truly trying to get to know the other person, the dating process can go a lot faster. When you're honest and open book, you can truly see if you're compatible with one another. In early dates, you should ask a lot of questions that are important to you, in order to see if you have any common interests or develop even more interest in the other person from the responses. It's always good to ask a lot of questions, but not in a way that a person will feel like it's an interrogation. The point is to smile and have a good time on early dates and see if you both connect on as many levels as possible. You see, there are many people that could be a good fit for each other. But, if you're picky like me, then you don't just want a good match, you want the best possible match for you.