Saturday, July 25, 2015

What Are You Worth

Everyone has positive and negative qualities. We're all good at something. We're all good at some things more than other things. Some of us are great basketball players, but not such great swimmers. Some of us are great at doing surgeries, but are a bit uncomfortable in social situations. Some of us can sing, but aren't such great public speakers. There are a million different examples I could say. We are all simply better at some things, than others. One thing we have to remember is that none of us are better than the next person. We may be better at doing one thing than the other person is, but we are not better than the other person. 

Confidence is sexy and arrogance is ugly. It's as simple as that. Loving yourself is a great thing, but thinking you're better than the next person isn't. You may be better at one thing than another person, but you're not a better person because you're good at that one thing. Nothing is uglier than having a big ego. Having said this, I can't stress enough how important it is to love yourself. You have to love yourself before loving someone else. In order to love yourself, you have to know yourself and be good to yourself. 

What are you worth? Are you worth a million dollars? Are you worth two million dollars? How about a billion dollars? Are you worth that much? Can you put a price on how much you're worth? I don't believe there's a price one can pay that could ever be equivalent to someone's worth. It's important to know your worth. You should never accept less than you feel you deserve. I'm referring to kindness and respect. It's important that if we respect ourselves, other people will respect us. If we respect and love ourselves, we won't let people disrespect us and be okay with it. 

I find it really sad when people take advantage of other people in regards to work, friendship, relationships, dating, and family. A person should know what they're okay with and what they're not. When I say that people should know themselves, I'm referring to this. If you know yourself and what your standards are/what you're okay with, then you should never accept less. If certain things are important to you when you're looking to date someone new, then you should speak up and tell the person how you feel. If that person isn't okay with what you're saying, despite how important it is to you, then you shouldn't date that person. 

I find that when dating, if you're in a relationship, or when you're married, it's imperative that you make a scale with your partner from 1 to 10 how important is this thing to you. This scale goes for everything. If your wife wants to see the Rolling Stones but you want to see Muse, and they're playing on the same evening, which one will you see? After a while of dating someone or being married, etc., sometimes we want what we want and we don't feel like giving in, in that moment. I can't stress enough how important it is not to feel like you're "giving in" all of the time, but to try and view it as being giving. Either way, the scale from 1 to 10 will let your partner know how important this thing is to you. When you say something's a 1, it means you really don't like it, a 10 means you really have to have this, and about 5 means that you could go either way. No, you can't be 10 all of the time! The point is that everyone takes turns and gets to choose things sometimes. Sometimes we don't realize how important something is to someone. When you use this scale, you'll have a better idea of how important things are to the other person. Especially, when the person barely says 10 for anything. 

The best relationships are when both people concentrate on giving to each other so much, that it's nearly impossible not to be giving right back to the other person. If a person isn't being as giving as you are, then you need to have a heart-to-heart with that person and let them know how you feel. Remember, communication is everything. If you don't tell people how you feel, you may miss your chance. It's not like people can read our minds, so if we don't tell people how we feel or what's important to us, they may never know. 

It's a beautiful day here in Los Angeles. I wanted to take this moment to thank you all for taking the time to read this. I hope you all enjoy the rest of your night. G-d Bless