Sometimes what we want in life are things that aren't actually good for us. If we listen to what our instinct tells us more, and on a regular basis, we'll get much further in life. Many times what people do is brush their instinct to the side, and do what feels right in the moment. When people say that you should "live for the moment" and enjoy what's happening in your life "now," it's important to make sure that what you're enjoying and living in the moment for is actually good for you. People tend to get carried away when they think that you should live as a free spirit and "do what makes you happy." Not everything that makes you happy is good for you. Many times what makes us happy can actually hurt us now or down the line, and it's important that people understand that you can't do anything simply because it makes you happy or because it feels good.
When it comes to relationships, people can usually tell early on whether someone is going to be a good match for them or not. The problem is that most people don't want to listen to their instincts, especially, if they find that person attractive, or they feel a certain amount of chemistry with them. Attraction, chemistry, and good looks can completely cloud the mind from having good judgment on whether or not something or someone will be good for you. You have to listen to your instinctive feeling, so you don't stall the process of finding your true soulmate. You could save yourself a lot of time, pain, and heartache when you listen to what your instinct tells you.
The truth is that most people don't listen to their instincts, and they completely go with their hearts (or their hormones). I know that it sounds funny, but it's quite true. Having said that, it's also not good to fall in love with someone, or be with someone I should say, when it's only what your mind tells you is the right thing to do. What I mean by that is that being with someone for the sole reason of it being a logical decision and a logical good match isn't going to bring you true happiness in the long run. Falling in love happens from the heart, soul, and the mind. You can't exclude one of those things and still have true and utter happiness in life.
The same way that a person can't fall in love by using logic alone, they also can't make a decision or fall hard for someone that's based on emotions alone (or they shouldn't at least). There has to be a good medium, and it's important to have some logic within letting yourself develop feelings for another person. The most important thing that you have to remember is to listen to your instinct. Logic and instinct are two different things. Logic is what makes sense to you and seems reasonable. Instinct is that inner voice in your head that tells you whether something is a good idea or not. I believe that instinct comes more from emotion than logic. When I think of logic, I think of facts, as opposed to any type of feeling being involved. For example, when someone isn't a logical match for you, it means that it completely makes no sense for you to be with them. If your instinct tells you that someone isn't a good match for you, it means that you recognize certain things about a person that you already know aren't going to work for you.
(Read more: "My Instincts Are Telling Me It Stinks - Part 2")