You may be very interested in someone and view them as quite the catch, but if you don't act quick enough, you could lose them. If you feel like losing them wouldn't be such a great loss, that there are plenty of fish in the sea, and that it wasn't meant to be, then by all means, move on. However, if you truly think that this could be "the one" and that it's hard for you to find people this genuine and good, don't waste time, and catch this person, before it's too late. Don't forget the old saying that opportunity usually only knocks once. If you want something bad enough, you have to make it happen, and go after it. Otherwise, somebody else will, and you'll miss your chance.
I think another reason I was postponing phone calls was because I knew that they could lead to them asking me on a first date, and I'd be put on the spot. If I was unsure about accepting the first phone call, then I knew I'd be unsure about wanting to accept the first date. As well, I never liked hurting people or making them feel bad, by saying I can't go out with them. I just preferred not to take phone calls when I had doubts. Boy, was I wrong! The only way that I could meet someone and have everything I wanted, was to take first phone calls. All I needed to do was have enough inner strength and confidence that I could say, "It was really lovely talking with you, but I don't feel that we're the right match, and I wish you the best." I've been postponing phone calls until the evening, slightly shy and embarrassed to have that first conversation, and I've been doing this for years. I realized that I've not only been postponing phone calls, but first dates as well. At that moment, I finally understood that I am the reason that I'm still single.
I realized that if I'm interested in someone, and I feel that there's hope (which I did), then I needed to be proactive and take the phone call sooner, rather than later. I realized that I've been postponing that phone call with this person for nearly 5 years (more or less). As I laugh about it now, it's really not all that funny. The truth is, my heart was completely open and ready to fall in love, but I needed to have that first phone call and first date, in order to do that. I told myself that I'm not going to postpone having that first phone call anymore. So just as I texted the person back, saying that I would be available to chat after 8:30, I sent another text saying, "or now is good too." Having said this, having a glimpse into my personal life, and seeing how imperfect I am, and that I postpone things all of the time as well, it's a work in process.
You shouldn't expect to suddenly become a different person overnight. But, becoming self aware and realizing the areas in which you need to improve, is not only the first step, but a big first step. I went out that same evening, and it was fabulous. It was better than I expected, and I never would've known if I didn't take that first phone call that night. It's never good to postpone things that you really want. If you're hoping to settle down and get married, you have to do everything in your power to make that happen for yourself. You can't expect things to be handed to you on a platter. You have to be proactive and go after your goals and dreams until you get them.
You have to appreciate someone when you have them, not after you lose them. I've read many books on how to be happy and from what I can see, they all have one thing in common. They all say that you should appreciate what you have and not concentrate on what you don't have. That's the key to happiness. So if you have a lover in mind, or you want to make someone yours, go after them. Don't waste any time, because things change in life so rapidly, that you may miss your big chance. Don't risk losing something that could be the best thing in your life... True love.