Wednesday, August 19, 2015

Love His Big Belly

We always talk about women, and how we should embrace a woman's feminine curves on her body. I'm well aware that some women are very skinny, and get criticized a lot as well. As far as the skinny women out there that get picked on for being too thin, this article pertains to you as well. You're beautiful and should be loved and embraced for exactly how your body is. As long as you're healthy, the person you're with should love you and embrace your body completely, or they're simply not appreciating you the way that they should. I wrote this article to express my feelings towards people that are dating someone or in a relationship with a person that's overweight or getting heavy. 

With all of the magazines, makeup, surgeries, and photoshop these days, we all have this image of what we're supposed to look like. Everyone will always have an opinion on how they think you should look. But the most important thing is to be happy with yourself inside first. Once you're happy with yourself as a person, you should be happy with the way G-d made you on the outside. You should learn to love and embrace everything about yourself. Having said that, sometimes we date people or are in a relationship with someone that becomes overweight. Perhaps they were overweight when you met them, and they're getting even heavier now. If you can believe it or not, the way we were raised and in this society that we live in, viewing people that are overweight and obese as ugly and gross is a trained, learned feeling. 

Back in the day, when Marilyn Monroe was alive, we embraced her curves and felt that she was the hottest thing out there. A lot of people these days are going back to embracing curves in a woman and appreciating a woman's natural body. Look at all of the stars these days embracing their curves and being loved for it. Everyone from Beyonce and Kim Kardashian to Jennifer Lopez, Iggy Azalea, or even Nicki Minaj. People used to appreciate all different types and forms of a woman's body. We can see how much people embrace a woman's natural curves by famous artists like Paul Rubens, Titian, or Fran├žois Boucher. People used to look deeper than the outer exterior. They had a way of looking at a woman's exterior as something so beautiful, that they even wanted to paint it. 

We should all know the importance of having a healthy body inside and out. It's so important and at times crucial that we take care of ourselves, and try to live a predominantly healthy lifestyle. When dating someone or in a relationship, being a good support system and motivating your partner to be better, eat healthier, and stay fit is very important, because you want your partner to live a long and healthy life. In order to be healthy, we have to eat nutritious, healthy foods, drink a lot of water, exercise, and do things to keep our heart rate up. Everyone should want to be healthy and have their partner and love of their life to be healthy as well. 

I'm sure that most of us can appreciate people that work hard to take care of themselves and have an incredibly fit and sexy body or physique. However, there are some people that medically can't do strenuous exercise or are so driven and motivated with work, that they're too pooped to even think about going to the gym or taking a walk. Don't get me wrong, I've seen people that work 80 to 100 hours a week and still manage to have a social life and go to the gym on a daily basis. I must say, people that I've seen like that, are some of the most incredible and inspiring people I've seen. It's truly impressive when someone is so motivated and driven and not only feels like they can do everything, but they do everything! If you're like that, hands down to you! Keep it up! 

Let's say that your man or woman is very overweight and the thought of seeing their tummy is grossing you out. Let's say that this person is completely shy and embarrassed to take off their shirt even when you're being intimate. I'd like to address all of this. Men and women that are overweight and heavy should take off their shirt and embrace themselves confidently, and their partner should embrace them as well. When you love someone, you love all of them. If you love someone enough, you love every single part of their body. If you don't, you don't love them enough, and there's a part of you that doesn't accept the other person for who they are completely. Would I ever date someone that was overweight and obese? Absofreakinlutely! I have dated all types of people. If anything, when I fall in love with a man, I love him so much that if he's overweight, I just want to grab him, squeeze him, and for him to hold me like a big teddy bear. What feels more protecting than when a big teddy bear man has his arms wrapped around you! Love and embrace your man or woman, and love all of their curves and crevices.