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Friday, August 21, 2015

I'm Confused: He Loves Me, but He Set Me Free

They say that if you love someone, you have to set them free. We always talk about the person that loves someone, but can't be with them. But, we never hear the other side or know the other person's feelings, that got the short end of the stick. Let's say that you've been dating someone for a while or are in a relationship with a person. You have a predominantly healthy relationship with them and you both love each other dearly. But there are certain issues that you both have, that your partner just can't seem to live with. I'm not putting it too lightly, when I say that it really sucks to be you right now. No one likes to feel heartache and definitely, no one likes to be the one that gets broken up with. Especially, when you have such strong feelings for the other person. The pain is going to be intense, but you can make it through this. Everyone has gone through breakups in their life and everyone's gotten the short end of the stick, at some time or another. I decided to write this article to share the other person's perspective, from the one who was set free.

When someone says to you, "I love you, but I have to let you go," it means that they love you and have feelings for you, but simply can't be with you anymore. It means that they're very torn about being with you. They can't come to terms with certain things about you and your relationship together. Despite the love that they feel for you, they feel it's best to both go your separate ways. When you're the person that gets left, there's a million thoughts that go through your mind. When you find out that the person you're crazy about is willing to leave you, even though they love you, it can be very confusing. Nothing pulls and tugs at you more than that. It can sound very conflicting to you, almost like they love and hate you, at the same time. Just knowing the fact that the other person truly loves you, but is willing to let you go can seriously be a tough pill to swallow.

What you need to remember and know is that the person that left you, is not the right person for you. The person that's meant to be with you, will stick around through the ups and downs. When you disagree on things with the right person, they'll fight with you, but they'll also fight for you. They won't leave you, despite your imperfections or for ways you need to improve yourself. It may not even be about improving yourself, but changing things in order to make your partner not want to leave. People always say that there's someone out there for everyone, and I know we all get tired of hearing that. But, the fact of the matter is that it's true. There is indeed, someone for you out there that will stand by your side, not judge you, hold your hand, and be a shoulder to cry on when needed. Your true love is awaiting you and when someone leaves you, they're just making room for the right person to come into your life. Keep your chin up and have faith. Believe that good things will happen, and they will.