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Monday, May 16, 2016

Dating: It's Time for a New Deck of Cards

When it comes to finding your best possible match, it's usually not all that easy. Sometimes singles date people, and for one reason or another, they don't feel the desire to go out with each other again. At least, not right away. In other words, some people date the same people over and over again. This is definitely not a good idea. Going back to an ex is almost never a good idea. That is, not unless certain things have changed. If you date someone, and you suddenly stop dating for no reason whatsoever, or at least no reasons that were communicated, there's no reason to explore that situation again. 

Some people feel that they're unsure about the person that they're dating or they might even have too many options. These are just a couple of reasons that people will suddenly disappear or ghost as many would call it. Remember, you are not an option, unless you accept being treated like one. Put yourself on a pedestal. You don't need anyone else to do that for you. I don't know about you, but for me, distance brings distance. Having distance while dating or in a relationship doesn't bring closeness. For me, closeness brings closeness. It seems that there are many people that would disagree, but I disagree with them. 

You can't truly bond or connect on any level whatsoever when you don't spend the time or put the effort into truly getting to know one another. This is one of the reasons that I've never been a big fan of the once a week date. You're either in or you're out. Especially, during the early dating period. In the beginning, you can get away with dating once a week, but really, just for maybe a couple of weeks or so. When someone is truly and utterly interested, they make things happen, and they create the time, because it's important to them, and they view you as unique, worthy, and a priority.

Many times people have succumb to dating the same people repeatedly when they don't see any options before them. Sometimes they're not looking hard enough, and sometimes they're just looking in all of the wrong places. Like I said before, this is a big no-no. Dating the same people repeatedly is like shuffling a deck of cards over and over again, and then choosing from the same deck. Seriously, if you don't miss someone or you don't appreciate them when you have them, next! It's important not to date people that you've previously dated, and especially when it seems to be getting you both nowhere. If this sounds like you, it's time to throw that deck out, and buy a brand new deck. Think about it, there won't even be a reason to shuffle.

In that same analogy, when you see that someone you've dated keeps contacting you, or when you know that a person isn't a good, healthy, or promising choice for you, then you need to let that situation go completely. There's no need to keep your past in your present or future. There's no need to shuffle that deck anymore, especially if you've been shuffling jokers. It's time to start over with a blank, clean slate, and a brand new deck of cards. Now is the time for all singles to be aware, and more than ever if they have hopes to find their one and only true love. 

To all of the single men out there, you need to buy a deck of queens, and for the ladies, it's time to buy a deck of kings. Know your worth, but stay humble. Realize that all you need in life is one partner, but one partner that will be crazy-good and compatible with you. There's no need to get a deck of kings or queens and use them all. But instead, find the king or queen that best suits you, and explore that situation. But most importantly, make sure that you're searching from a brand new deck of cards.