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Monday, October 26, 2015

Using Emotional Weapons to Battle in Relationships

We all know what weapons are. They're things that you take with you to battle, they can protect you, and they can harm you as well. Weapons are things that are used to defend oneself in battle or otherwise. Being that I write about love and relationships, in this article I'm going to share what emotional weapons are, and the harm that they can cause to another.

It's a very cruel thing to use emotional weapons during arguments. When you know something very private about the person that you're dating or in a relationship with, and it's something that caused them pain in their past, or childhood, you should never use that information as a weapon, because it's very cruel, and can be truly, and deeply hurtful to the other person. It's unfortunate that many people try to use whatever information they know about a person against them during an argument, or fight. 

Perhaps, the person that you're dating confided in you about a bad relationship that they went through, and you're aware of how toxic it was for whatever reasons. When you bring something like that up during an argument with the person, it's not only wrong, but it makes the person not want to confide in you anymore, because they feel like you're using what they've shared with you against them. 

Using emotional weapons is one of the worst things that you can do during arguments. Using emotional weapons takes away good communication, it takes away your partner being an open book with you, and it causes pain to your partner, that could possibly stay with them for the long-term. It can be very hurtful when you bring up past, hurtful situations that have been resolved, only because it helps your side of the story, a fight, or an argument.