The Damage of Being Lied to in Relationships

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Tuesday, October 27, 2015

Learn from Yesterday, Live for Today, and Grow for Tomorrow

When you're dating someone for awhile, in an exclusive relationship, or married, sometimes we make mistakes. Most of them are fixable, but unfortunately, not all of them are. On the most part, we all learn from our mistakes when we acknowledge what we've done wrong, instead of sweeping problems under the rug. It's imperative that we show signs of remorse for our wrongdoings. 

It's important to apologize when we've acted unkind, said or done hurtful things, whether on purpose, accidentally, or even when we unintentionally hurt the person that we care for. Sometimes, the apology is enough (when it's sincere), and other times, it's simply not enough, and our future actions will be the type of apology that's needed. It's possible that our partner might be at a point where they feel the need to see positive changes in our actions, in order to believe that we're truly sincere, and it's not a mere apology that's being said in order to calm, or sweep away the hurtful situation. 

Everyone has issues in their relationships. Some couples have more than others. If you're in a healthy relationship, or dating someone, and it's a healthy situation, you're likely working on your problems, and trying to grow from them. At times, we debate in our minds whether or not we can change our areas of weakness, our bad habits, and our toxic behaviours within our relationship. Is it possible to be in a situation, a relationship where we keep repeating the same mistakes, and somehow stop the downward spiral?

If two people are used to each other, and used to messing up in certain areas of their relationship, can it ever be fixed? Well, if you're both wanting your relationship to improve, you have to both equally take part in working on it, and not only acknowledge the problems in your relationship, but actively work on ways to improve it. 

When you really love someone, and you truly want to see each other happy, and thrive in your relationship, then you should both be open to improving things separately, and together. In other words, you need to work on yourself, and how you can improve things within yourself, and in your own personal areas of weakness, and your partner should do the same, meaning work on their areas of weakness. We don't always need to work on the same exact things. 

A relationship takes two people that are actively willing to work on themselves as individuals, and come together as a couple, and naturally the couple will thrive together. What's important to note is that each and every day should be treated as a brand new beginning. As if every morning when you wake up, you get a fresh clean slate, a brand new start, a new chance to make things right, better, healthier, and more beautiful. 

It's never too late to change for the better. It's never too late to fix things in a relationship that can be fixed, and when you're both willing to fix things, improve, and when you're both open to making positive changes within yourselves, and as a couple. For the times that things cannot be fixed, the least that you can both do is acknowledge those things, and try to recover from them by not doing them again. Learn from your mistakes, because you can't change the past. You can only move forward, grow, and do everything in your power not to make those same mistakes again.