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Tuesday, September 29, 2015
The Power of Being Direct (Part 1)
Time Doesn't Tell, So Speak Up
When you're dating someone for a long time or are in an exclusive relationship, there are moments where we hope that our partner knows exactly what we're thinking. It's almost as if we assume that because they've spent so much time with us, that they can nearly read our minds. It's true that at times, our partners do you know exactly what we want and when we want it. This usually happens when you spend a lot of time with someone and get really used to them. But, that's not always the case, nor is it something that we can assume will happen. Many times, people that have been together for some time start assuming that the other person knows exactly what they're thinking, when they actually don't. This goes for men and women, but being that women are generally the more emotional gender, they tend to do this more often than men. I don't know the statistics, but this is my personal belief. Having said that, I'm hoping that this article will shed some insight to those that find themselves or their partners falling into these types of predicaments. The importance of being direct and saying what you mean and telling your partner exactly what you want can truly benefit your relationship.
Good Communication Goes Both Ways
Just as love goes both ways, so does good communication. You should never be afraid of expressing your feelings and desires to your partner. You should have the type of communication with them that's very "open book." You should be able to tell your partner your deepest desires and needs in the relationship. As well, they should do the same with you. You shouldn't have to worry about your partner judging you for speaking your mind, when you have a truly healthy relationship. I hope you're all getting an understanding of what I'm trying to convey in this article. No one can read your mind or know exactly what you want if you don't speak up. Your partner won't know what you can't stand, or know exactly what your needs are if you don't communicate them. Being direct and having great communication are two of the biggest factors in having a healthy relationship where both partners are happy. Having said this, a relationship goes both ways and should never be one sided, where one partner cares enough to communicate their feelings, telling you what they like and don't like, while the other person doesn't. When it comes to expressing yourself, both people in a relationship should learn to speak up, and let each other know how they're feeling, what their needs are, and what bothers them. Remember, your partner can't read your mind, and if you don't tell them what's going on inside of it, they might never know.