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Monday, September 7, 2015

How to Tell a Man What You Like, Without Hurting His Ego

As we all know, the one thing you never want to do is hurt a man's ego. You can hurt a man's ego in many ways. Many times people don't think before they speak, and even when they might not be trying to hurt someone's feelings, they do. Some people don't care if they hurt your feelings, but that's just because their insensitive and mean. Just because a man is known to be strong and you might feel like he can take a punch, he still has feelings and a soul. Men are no different from women in that way. It doesn't matter what your gender is, when it comes to getting your feelings hurt. We all have our own insecurities, and we're all sensitive to different things. It's important to bring out the best in your loved ones and make them feel good about all of the qualities, attributes, and things that they have, as opposed to what they don't have, or are lacking. Always try to concentrate on the positive, instead of the negative. I don't believe that a person should have to walk on eggshells in fear of hurting someone's feelings, and therefore, avoid telling them how they really feel. A person shouldn't have to hold back, not tell someone how they really feel, what they like, and what they don't like. When you're dating or in a relationship, it's of uttermost importance to tell one another what you like and what you don't like. Having said that, I wrote this article to help women understand that it's okay to tell a man what she likes, doesn't like, and how to tell a man in a way that won't destroy him or hurt his ego. 

What people must realize is that you can say almost anything to another human being, as long as you say it coming from a good and genuine place. As well, it's not always what you say, but how you say it. When you say certain things to someone, it's not only what you're saying, but it's the tone that you say it in. What's your motive for telling the person how you feel, what you like, and what you don't like? Are you just trying to be mean, or are you trying to let the person know how you feel with hopes for improvement, etc.? As long as your intentions when you tell someone how you truly feel are pure, it's not only okay to tell the person, but it's imperative that you tell them, especially, when you're dating or in a relationship. 

Now that we've established that it's important to tell your loved one how you really feel and what you like and don't like, there something a woman can do that can be helpful in not only avoiding hurting her man's ego, but making him smile. I bet you're wondering what that is! Like I said before, it's not only what you're saying, but how you say it. Having said that, when a woman talks to a man, the tone of her voice is everything! I believe that a woman can let a man know exactly what she wants and tell him in a sensual tone. If you don't agree, you don't have to do it. This is merely my humble opinion, especially, if you want to get him to listen. Every woman has a sexiness to her and can be sexy and sensual whenever she wants. Timing is everything ladies! Crank up your sensual charisma and tell your man what you want! In case you didn't know ladies, men want to know how they can please you in every way. At least, when they're really into you. 

A lot of women are too shy to tell a man what she wants and doesn't want. But, if she doesn't speak up, she may never get it. What some women might not realize, is that a lot of men feel as if you may be expecting him to know exactly how to please you (inside and outside of the bedroom). However, that's a lot of pressure for a man. The fact of the matter is, every woman is different and we all want, like, and don't like different things. We all have different feelings, different desires, different bodies, and yearn for different kinds of love and affection. Many times, a man won't let a woman know that he doesn't know exactly what you want, because of his masculine ego. Every man wants to feel like he's the best and knows exactly how to please his woman. It might be rare that a man asks you what you like, especially, when it comes to intimacy. When you're in an exclusive relationship, and you decide to become intimate, it's imperative that you develop good communication and feel comfortable enough to tell each other what you like and don't like. 

This article is not solely about intimacy in the bedroom. It's about being comfortable enough to tell a man your feelings and desires, and doing so in a way that won't annoy him. You definitely want to make sure that he doesn't tune you out. Yes ladies, there are times when your man will completely or partially tune you out! In case you haven't experienced it and for for men that don't realize that they're doing it, men tend to tune out women at times, because they have other things on their minds, don't feel like every single thing that you say is all that important, or maybe it's just that you talk a lot. I think that all men have done this to women at one time or another. As we all know, women love to talk, and some, more than others. That's why it's so important to have a sensual tone when you talk to your man. Entice your man into the conversation. Let him know how you feel and what you want in a way that you will keep his attention. Remember, when you speak to a man and tell him what you want, be confident, say it with love, sweetness, and be sensual. Bring out your feminine tone and be the sexy woman that you are. A woman should never be afraid to tell a man or anyone how she feels. In fact, I believe that your man will be more than happy that you're opening up to him and telling him what you want, don't want, and how you feel. A happy and healthy relationship takes good communication inside and outside of the bedroom. Having written this article that is directed towards women, I feel that it absolutely goes both ways, and men should tell a woman how he feels, what he likes, and what he doesn't like as well.