When it comes to dating and relationships, it can be a struggle at times to find a situation that works. I think that we all basically want someone that we can connect with on as many levels as possible. I suppose that we're all hoping to find someone that just "gets us." I've never been a big fan of going on pointless dates, or dating anyone for that matter that isn't on the same page, or that doesn't have pure intentions. Sometimes it's hard to know what a person's intentions are, despite what they say.
Many people will lead you on to believe that they're in a healthy place so to speak, emotionally available, and more than ready to let their guard down, and love you. Unfortunately, many times people can get misled by the deceiving ways of others. It's unfortunate as well, but there's really no way out of heartache when it comes to developing feelings for someone that simply doesn't feel the same way. It's important to remember that when someone isn't interested in you that you hoped would be, they made room in your life to find the person that you should be with.
You should never get too hard on yourself when someone isn't interested in you, as you might've hoped. Think about it, you want someone that loves you, and that will be there by your side, because they genuinely love and care for you. As deflating as it might be at times when you meet someone that you like, but they're not all that into you, it's important to remember that you should only want to be with someone that wants to be with you. You should simply shake it off, snap your fingers, and get back on your horse, so that you can find your true love.
Don't let disappointment weigh you down. There's no need to waste your time feeling sad or blue from a situation that was one-sided. When situations don't work out, seem one-sided, and you're the only one that had interest in the other, you shouldn't let that situation hold you back from opening up your heart once again. When something doesn't work out as planned, we all need to take a moment to seriously shake it off, and move on. The only way to find real love, and to fall in love at all for that matter, is to have an open heart.
You can't go into new situations scared, with a protective barrier, or any type of emotional wall to protect yourself from getting hurt. Being afraid to fall in love will literally stunt your search for true love. If you're afraid of getting hurt, you're bound to go into things with a closed heart, and you won't even be able to recognize love even if it's right in front of your eyes. It's imperative that we all let our guards down, and go into new situations with caution, but never with fear. Remember, no one wants to get hurt, but at times, in order to find true love, it takes pain. Just like anything else in life, it takes hard work or pain even, in order to get what we want.