Sometimes it's hard to tell whether someone is emotionally unintelligent or whether they're just incompatible with you. For some couples, no matter how hard they try, their partner just doesn't seem to understand what they're trying to say or express. This is even goes for when they're being completely direct in their approach. It's almost as if they just don't connect with you on certain levels, when you feel that they should. You should figure out what's most important for you to have in a partner (see: "The Most Important 8 Things to Look for in a Match"). The truth is, couples need to truly understand each other. In other words, they need to connect to a certain extent that they both feel at ease, heard, and where they don't disagree on every little thing.
There's a big difference between opposites attracting and being totally incompatible. It's important to acknowledge differences, and to see if they're things that you can live with. When things are right in relationships, there are still usually hard times and issues along the way. Nothing will always be easy. But generally speaking, during early dating, things should naturally flow to some extent. One thing is for sure, and that's the fact that couples should connect with one another, and not be made to feel as if they're crazy or stupid for having different feelings or opinions than their partner. If you're feeling that your partner never really understands you on an emotional level, or on a level that's of great importance to you, you might want to reevaluate your relationship altogether.
Whether you have the same interests as another person or whether or not you look good together in other people's eyes, it doesn't really matter. You and your partner know whether or not you get along, and just how compatible you really are.You need to do what makes you happy, and be with someone who not only shares your interests for the most part, but embraces the way that you think, and act. The same goes for when your partner doesn't like or agree with everything that you say or do. No one is going to be identical to their partner, and no, not even to their soulmate. Being soulmates doesn't mean that you literally are or become one person. It means that you're two different people that complement one another in such a way that everything feels just right.