Monday, October 26, 2015

Dating: Adult Temper Tantrums

The best time that you can find out the most about a person is during the early dating period. During early dating, you should be asking a lot of questions to the person that you're going out with, in order to find out if they're the best possible match for you (see: "The 3 Date Rule" ). The only way to know certain qualities about a person is by spending enough time with them. In other words, if you go on a date once a week for a couple of months, you're likely not going to find out a lot about someone, how they really are behind the scenes, what their temperament is like, and what's underneath all of that googoo, gaga layer of frosting, that usually comes with early dating. 

Unfortunately, many people don't act like themselves during early dating, and it's important to truly be yourself, so that the other person is likely to notice that, and act like themselves more as well, even when they're not used to doing so. When it comes to temperament, it's important to find out early on what a person's triggers are, and what their temperament is like. The only way to find those things out is by taking the time and getting to know a person. It's one thing to ask a person, "Hey, what's your temperament like?" But, there's never really a way to know if the person is being honest, or if they could possibly have an explosive temperament. If most people had a really bad temper, they likely wouldn't admit it early on, if at all. 

One of the biggest red flags when dating someone new is a bad temper. Any signs of a bad temper and you should peace out immediately. There's no excuse for an explosive temper or any bad temperament for that matter during early dating. Besides the fact that some people are more sensitive to a bad temper than others, there shouldn't be signs of a bad temper, or uncontrollable anger for any reason during early dating. Early dating should feel like bliss, and like a good honeymoon for newlyweds.

Early dating is a time that you're supposed to get to know a person, and if they're not a good fit, you let them go, and move on to someone else. There's no need to stay with someone that's a bad fit, shows signs of red flags, or any signs of having a bad temper. Everyone gets upset sometimes, but during early dating, things should generally go pretty smooth. If things aren't going smooth during early dating, you're likely not the right match for each other. Remember, it's important to find out what a person's triggers are, and try to avoid them at all costs. When you know what a person's triggers are, in other words, what upsets them the most, you shouldn't use those things as emotional weapons during an argument with them.

In conclusion, it's important to remember that during early dating you should be asking enough questions that you get a feel for whether or not the other person has a bad temper. There are many early warning signs that a person might display having a bad temper early on, even before spending a lot of time with them. For example, a person that's usually rude to waiters or other staff at a restaurant, usually has a side of arrogance, possible control issues, lack of self-control, they're rude, insensitive, temperamental, and possibly aggressive. If you think about it, that's merely going to a restaurant, and many people show signs like that by simply being rude to a waiter. 

During early dating most people act on their best behavior. We should all act on our best behavior, but we should act that way all of the time, not just during early dating. When you act that way during early dating, you're not being true to the other person, or to yourself, and your stalling the other person truly getting to know you. Having said that, usually a person is normal enough, or hopefully a person is normal enough to act respectful, and kind to everyone during early dating, so it usually takes a little time to get to know a person, before realizing, and seeing whether or not they have a bad temper.

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